Sex, Love, and Intimate Relationship

OK… I have a super important point to make, and I think you’re going to like it… but you’ll have to stick with me here. Last week on my blog I shared some of my most vulnerable thoughts on my journey thus far (turning 40 can do that I guess)… From proud life choices (hells YES to moving to Spain!) To deep sadness… (where’s my soul partner?) This amount of vulnerability feels, well… VULNERABLE, but through this process I had an epiphany. Sharing this way is the only way I can be authentically in right relationship with you, with myself, and with the world. Which led to another epiphany. There’s… Read More

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Audrika… lessons learned on my 40th.

As much as I hate to admit it, turning 40 was tough.  Every year I celebrate by turning the whole month of July into #Audrika, cutting down my workload and increasing my fun factor.  My 38th (here and here) was a very typical example of how I’ve embraced celebrating my birthdays. But I wonder… 40… is this a mid-life crises? An article in the Huffington post says men might experience it between 45-60 while women might feel it in their late 30’s.  Questions they pondered: ‘Is this all there is?’ …. ‘why am I doing this?’ …. ‘what about what I need’ …. ‘who am I anymore?’ …. ‘what is… Read More

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I DON’T GET IT…

I gave a nutrition crash course lecture last week up in Vallejo, and I brought up a toxic belief that almost ALL of my clients have: Once I weigh (insert your dream weight here), then I’ll start (insert how you think you’ll be different here). Once I lose 20 pounds, then I’ll: Go shopping for cute clothes Start dating Feel comfortable in my own skin Be more social and go out with friends Feel sexy enough to have sex Go to the beach Be more active Go to a pool party Feel worthy of someone’s love During the talk, I showed them that by waiting to live their life until… Read More

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3 WAYS TO KILL YOUR POST-HOLIDAY FOOD CRAVINGS

Happy Monday folks! I hope you had a great holiday weekend and that it was filled with friends, family, play, and pleasure. Usually accompanying the fun weekend are fun foods that can turn into cravings.  Before you know it, it’s been 4th of July weekend the entire month of July! Here are three quick tips to get you back on track if you’re experiencing cravings. 1.  eat more protein.   Usually cravings happen because of blood sugar dysregulation after a weekend of eating sweet, sugary things.  If you notice a craving pop up for something sweet, curb it with some protein. 2.  eat actual meals. Cravings tend to have us… Read More

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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE THE CHANGE?

If only 10% of the worlds population omitted to greater consciousness, to knowing themselves in a deeper way…. there would be a massive decrease in suffering. RAISE CONSCIOUSNESS. KNOW YOURSELF. BE THE CHANGE. Before we see less suffering on the planet, we first need to BE THE CHANGE we are seeking. As we do our inner work, we become more compassionate toward ourselves…. this is AND WILL ALWAYS BE… the 1st step. Step 1:  Learn compassion by offering to yourself, so that you’re own suffering decreases first. It’s a HUGE step that requires constant effort + focus + time + attention. Becoming more compassionate toward yourself is a blend of… Read More

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LETTING GO OF “ALL OR NOTHING”

How many times have you done your Sunday grocery shopping with the “perfect” list of the “prefect” healthy foods ready to roll for Monday and the rest of the week? Monday goes “perfectly”.  Awesome job. Tuesday goes “almost perfectly”…. …if it wasn’t for that handful of chips you grabbed in the break room. You say to yourself at the end of the night, “That wasn’t the end of the world, but I gotta knock that sh*t off tomorrow.  Focus and little will power for cry’in out loud, first name!” Wednesday, is “way less than perfect”…. …financial stress is piling on.  You say to yourself:  “Lack of sleep is really catching… Read More

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BE THE CHANGE A LOVE NOTE

 I’m a little obsessed with a song.     For about 4 years now, I’ve been obsessed with a song from MC Yogi’s album Elephant Power.  The song is called Be The Change and it’s the story of Ghandi, told in MC Yogi’s inspiring rap-form.I’ve listened to this song almost every time I’ve gotten in my car for the past 4 years and it’s meaning permeates more deeply each time. “Be the change that you want to see in the world…. Just like Ghandi”. Over… and over…. again. At first for me, this meaning took on huge implications… things like: How can I start a movement? How can I get… Read More

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Do you hate your thighs?

I remember being 8 years old laying on the couch with my knees bent, looking down at my thighs. They touched. Despite what I know now about my very normal sized 8-year old body, at the time, I thought I was fat and I had proof because my thighs touched.  To this day, I remember having the thought, “I wish I could just cut off the parts that were touching… then I’d like my thighs…then I’d be happy.” It’s easy to hear a story like this and feel sorry for that 8-year old.  Clearly, 8-year olds (including myself) get this message from family, older siblings, friends, TV ads, magazines and… Read More

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NAKED IN PUBLIC

This holiday weekend, I decided it was time for me get naked in public. No, this isn’t some April Fools joke a week late. I really decided it was time. The first time this thought ever crossed my mind was when I was studying at the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. At the Institute, we not only dove into the real reasons we hold more weight than our body needs (i.e. psychological and emotional reasons), we also did a ton of work around our relationship to food AND our relationship to our own body. In our work around healthy body image, I remember my teacher talking about being very… Read More

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WHAT SHOULD I EAT BEFORE I WORKOUT?

I can’t believe how many times over the past 2 decades I’ve been asked this question. I finally decided… it’s time to just answer the damn question! Look, there’s going to be a lot of people out there with a special powder, shake, or special bar that will tell you they have the answer to what to eat before a workout. First: What time are you talking about? If you’re working out in the morning…. you’ve likely been fasting since the night before, so naturally your blood sugar is down. If you go out on an empty stomach it can cause BS to decrease even further, creating a situation where… Read More

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