3 WAYS TO KILL YOUR POST-HOLIDAY FOOD CRAVINGS

Happy Monday folks!

I hope you had a great holiday weekend and that it was filled with friends, family, play, and pleasure.

Usually accompanying the fun weekend are fun foods that can turn into cravings.  Before you know it, it’s been 4th of July weekend the entire month of July!

Here are three quick tips to get you back on track if you’re experiencing cravings.

1.  eat more protein.  
Usually cravings happen because of blood sugar dysregulation after a weekend of eating sweet, sugary things.  If you notice a craving pop up for something sweet, curb it with some protein.

2.  eat actual meals.
Cravings tend to have us snacking all day instead of eating an actual meal.  Try to regulate your system using this tried and true mind-body nutrition strategy:  eat with your natural rhythm.  This means simply, eat breakfast, eat lunch, eat dinner.  Make sure your meals have protein, fat, and carbs (in that order) to stabilize blood sugar and help you feel satiated.

3.  If you really need something sweet, go for an apple.
Apples are not only sweet, they’re packed with fiber and pectin, which can keep you full for a few hours.  Also, this is a great way to wean off of any processed food you’ve been eating and calm that craving with a whole food.  The more often you do this, the softer your cravings will come and the easier they’ll be satisfied with an apple (instead of a box of Oreos!) : )

You probably know I’m a huge proponent of ditching diets and living your life, which is one of the beautiful parts of holidays and celebrations.  So don’t get caught up in the self-berating because you had some fun this weekend.

But also don’t get caught up in month-long food-fest because you partied hard this weekend.  It’s that exact “black and white… all or nothing” mentality that keep us stuck losing the same 20 pounds 20 times.

Finding middle ground through compassion toward yourself and your situation is the way not only to sustainable weight loss, but also to living in a body you love.

This is how to BE the change.  Every. Single. Day.

Love and Light,

Audra

In the comments section below… share with all of us:

What works for YOU to help stop cravings?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE THE CHANGE?

If only 10% of the worlds population omitted to greater consciousness, to knowing themselves in a deeper way…. there would be a massive decrease in suffering.

RAISE CONSCIOUSNESS.

KNOW YOURSELF.

BE THE CHANGE.

Before we see less suffering on the planet, we first need to BE THE CHANGE we are seeking.

As we do our inner work, we become more compassionate toward ourselves…. this is AND WILL ALWAYS BE… the 1st step.

Step 1:  Learn compassion by offering to yourself, so that you’re own suffering decreases first.

It’s a HUGE step that requires constant effort + focus + time + attention.

Becoming more compassionate toward yourself is a blend of forgiving yourself, having empathy and compassion FOR yourself, AND committing to self-care.

Compassion toward yourself = forgive yourself + self-care (over and over again.)

Continuing the process over time deepens the healing you receive for yourself and your capacity to offer this healing out to world.

This is how to BE THE CHANGE.

Join me as I embark upon this journey in the day-to-day realities we all live in.

Learning to see the little (or big) addictions that keep us pegged into the same unhelpful habits over and over again, and then overcoming these together.

Share with me below in the comments section:

What does “Be The Change” mean to you?  How can you practice it in your day-to-day life?

LETTING GO OF “ALL OR NOTHING”

How many times have you done your Sunday grocery shopping with the “perfect” list of the “prefect” healthy foods ready to roll for Monday and the rest of the week?

Monday goes “perfectly”.  Awesome job.

Tuesday goes “almost perfectly”….

…if it wasn’t for that handful of chips you grabbed in the break room.

You say to yourself at the end of the night, “That wasn’t the end of the world, but I gotta knock that sh*t off tomorrow.  Focus and little will power for cry’in out loud, first name!”

Wednesday, is “way less than perfect”….

…financial stress is piling on.  You say to yourself:  “Lack of sleep is really catching up with me today.  The kids are driving me crazy.  I was so misunderstood by my boss in that meeting… how could she have seen it like that?  Did my partner really say that to me?  Those are fighting words!”

Tired, misunderstood, anxious, stressed.  You drive by your favorite coffee shop-doughnut shop-bakery or even Whole Foods because you know they have that serve-yourself-cookie-bar.

In the car, with coffee and crumbs all around, you say, “f*k it”…. it’s out to eat tonight!

Then the rest of the week kinda goes like that….

Until Sunday, that is… when you’re ready to commit to “perfection” again.

Sound familiar?

This vicious cycle of “all or nothing”, “black and white” thinking creates a wedge of separateness in our lives.

I’m working with a very small group of women right now, and as we’ve started our work together, the excitement for the journey is so high that immediately they are worried they’ll fail.  They think perfection is the answer, but…

Directly behind perfection is hatred and abuse.

When we strive for perfection with our food (or our body, or relationship, or bank account, or [insert your “thing” here], we have set ourselves up not only to fail, but also to beat ourselves up.

An internal dialogue of anger, disappointment, and hatred.

Outward actions of abusive over-exercise, or over eating and possible binge eating.

At the root of all of this is perfectionism.

It’s this “all or nothing” thinking—this inability to find the middle ground—that not only created this scenario, but it also colors all other aspects of your life, too.  The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.

So what I share with this amazing group of women, I also share with you…

Learning to ease up, to be softer, to let go of this thinking is easier said than done.  Sometimes, it’s just having the willingness to kind to our self and realize there is no such thing as perfection in the human condition.

From awareness brings the wisdom of choice.

Here’s what I’d like to know from you:

Where in your life do you notice “all or nothing”, “black and white” thinking?  And in what ways have you been able to overcome this delusional thinking?

Please join our community and share over on the blog because we ALL can use each other’s wisdom to overcome this type of thinking.

This is how we BE THE CHANGE, YO.  Every. Single. Day.

Love and Light,

Audra

BE THE CHANGE A LOVE NOTE

BE THE CHANGE A LOVE NOTE

 I’m a little obsessed with a song.  

 

MC-YOGI

For about 4 years now, I’ve been obsessed with a song from MC Yogi’s album Elephant Power.  The song is called Be The Change and it’s the story of Ghandi, told in MC Yogi’s inspiring rap-form.I’ve listened to this song almost every time I’ve gotten in my car for the past 4 years and it’s meaning permeates more deeply each time.

“Be the change that you want to see in the world…. Just like Ghandi”.

Over… and over…. again.

At first for me, this meaning took on huge implications… things like:

  • How can I start a movement?
  • How can I get 1000’s of people to on board to make real change?

But then somewhere between the 5,000th – 6,000th times hearing the message… the meaning finally grew deeper for me.

It has nothing to do with the pomp and circumstance of big and elaborate movements.

It’s so much more subtle and occurs on an intimate, internal, individual basis.

Be the change is a personal commitment to doing the inner work.

It’s taking responsibility for your own life, your own addictions, your own wounds, and transforming them into compassion, empathy, and love.

This isn’t easy work (work I call Compassion Training), but it is the work of waking up.

Waking up to your darker shadow-y places and shining light in those directions.

And this work starts with yourself.

Giving yourself compassion, empathy, and love.  

Taking care of those parts of you that you have neglected, that end up creating dysfunctional habits, and a dysfunctional delusional relationship with yourself, with others, and with the world around you.

Before we even start talking about starting a movement… this work is first…. and actually… this work IS the movement!

Most of you know my work in the realms of fitness and nutrition… helping folks start to look more clearly at their relationship to their body, movement, food, and nourishment.

When I give live talks, I’ve been quoted:

“If you struggle with your weight, with your relationship to your body, or your relationship to food, then healing that is part of your “spiritual journey”.  In other words, it’s important work you’re here to do while visiting planet earth.

Healing these areas of your life is a doorway that shines light into your truth.

This is how I help.

Through this door… the doorway of a better relationship with your body and food, light shines into those shadowy places of delusion and transforms them into the truth of who you really are.

I’ve also found that through this portal, when taken seriously, other parts of your life start to come into alignment, like over-spending miraculously seems to stop, debts begin to diminish, intimate relationships deepen with vulnerability, and like your waistline, life begins to feel lighter.  

Be the change you want to see in world is about the small daily things that connect you to yourself, your body, your relationships, earth, and the world around you in a more meaningful way.

It’s also not sexy.

I’ve found the more I practice this as my guiding philosophy, the glimmer and glamour of bull-shit promises of being a size 2 super model fade away for me.

The delusion is replaced by something much more profound.

The sexy is replaced with grounded-ness, roots into my life, realness and vulnerability in my relationships, and a deeper connection to truth.

(Which ironically becomes very sexy!  I love paradox….)

And while the glitzy promises fed by a multi-billion dollar diet industry that “size 2=sexy” leave my consciousness, my solid size 6-8, feminine, curvy, strong body feels like home.

Why do I share this with you?

Because I struggled and struggled for years, obsessing about my body and the food I eat, until I realized… I’m not my body, I’m not my obsessions, I’m something so much more profound than that.

It required training my mind and my retraining my conscious and unconscious habits.

I did it.

If I can do it, anyone can.

Start with this:

  • Slow down
  • Cook more… get acquainted to the food you eat
  • Give more compliments
  • Sense compassion welling up in your daily interactions
  • Pay more attention to your thoughts… notice negative habitual thoughts… do they serve you?
  • Get outside in nature
  • Find more pleasure in the smaller things (think a square of dark chocolate instead of a banana split)I love this work and I love to help.

I hope this blog post has inspired you to slow down and see that the real work is about getting real… with yourself…. in a loving and compassionate way.

I wrote this letter to give you inspiration, and also to have a better understanding of where I’m coming from as nutrition educator, coach, and teacher.

If this speaks to you, you are in a space of wanting to look at these shadowy places, and are looking for help to navigate through, you’re in the right place!

My question for you:

Please join me in the conversation and share below:  Where do you struggle the most?  Where are you most looking for answers?

Love and light,

Audra

Do you hate your thighs?

Do you hate your thighs?

I remember being 8 years old laying on the couch with my knees bent, looking down at my thighs.

They touched.

Despite what I know now about my very normal sized 8-year old body, at the time, I thought I was fat and I had proof because my thighs touched.

Ihatemythighs

 To this day, I remember having the thought, “I wish I could just cut off the parts that were touching… then I’d like my thighs…then I’d be happy.”

It’s easy to hear a story like this and feel sorry for that 8-year old.  Clearly, 8-year olds (including myself) get this message from family, older siblings, friends, TV ads, magazines and such…. so it’s easy to see how it’s not my 8-year old fault.

Yet as adults how many of you reading this right now can’t stand a part of your body?

“I despise the way my arms jiggle… I hate my thick thighs…. I get sick when I look at my stomach in the mirror”

—those are exact words I’ve heard from different clients.

The internal dialogue that goes on (sometimes obsessively), hating on your own body, is like waging war… with yourself.

And the damage cuts deep.  It undermines the infinite wisdom of our bodies and disconnects us further from the possibility of healing.

While it might be true:

  • there might be weight to lose
  • there might be muscles that could use some toning
  • there might be food addictions that need to cease

To have an internal dialogue of hate and disgust just makes matters worse.  Hating on yourself will never get you to where you want to go with your body.

Why did I share that very vulnerable story I still remember from being 8 years old?

Because if you struggle with holding onto more weight than your body actually needs to be healthy, there’s a 99% chance that you use food in ways that numb and deflect the feelings and emotions that you don’t want to feel.

It’s a way of hiding our feelings from ourselves or others.

I tell you the story the of my 8-year old self because the truth is if you use food (or alcohol, sex, drugs, shopping, relationships, gambling, etc) in this way, there really ARE parts of you that didn’t get enough at some point in your life (usually in childhood).

What do I mean my enough?

Enough love, acknowledgement, encouragement, and a real knowing that we ARE ENOUGH with no strings attached.

And when these old, untouched feelings pop up, when they speak up and act out, it really feels as if they were true… as if we aren’t enough.

We believe that these old, child-like, undigested feelings are true, so they take over and we act out by over-eating, over-exercising, over-spending, etc.  Anything to fill the hole.  Anything to make us feel like ENOUGH.

But the truth is, food (or shopping/drugs/exercise/alcohol/etc) will never be the answer to fill the empty hole.

And what makes it worse is when we validate these old feelings with hate for our body or our circumstances.

Until we touch these parts of us with love, the cycle will never end.

If you’re still with me, then I probably struck a chord of truth in you.  So then you might be wondering at this point, “What the hell do I do?!”

If food, or whatever your choice of distraction to your undigested feelings isn’t the answer… then what is?

Well, you can’t control your past.

You can’t change the past circumstances that created the false belief that you aren’t enough, or the false destructive behaviors that you learned along the way.

But you do have control over how you relate to yourself right now.  When these undigested feelings come up, you can either beat yourself down:

(“I hate my body, I’m disgusted with how I look, WTF is my problem?”)

OR… LOVE YOURSELF UP.

When you catch yourself ridiculing, beating up, putting down, or disrespecting yourself, immediately shift into kindness and love.

You can say to yourself instead:

“Oh sweetheart…. I know you’re upset… and I want to hear why… no more fighting… tell me more…. I have only love and kindness to how difficult this is for you…let me put my arms around you and shower you with love”

This profound shift in our inner dialogue drops the war and begins the healing.  This is where we fill ourselves up with what was missing from long ago.

It’s not easy.

It requires a great deal of perseverance, compassion, and consciousness… ALL OF WHICH can be cultivated over time.

This is but one example of one of the many ways I work my clients to get to the root causes of what’s really going on, pull those root weeds out gently, and fill them back up with the love and tenderness that’s been missing.

This is the real work:  the constant daily attention given to yourself that over time has you filling up on life instead of food.  This is how doing the healing inner work changes your life, and yes… your body.

Share with me in the comments section below:  What do you do to be kind to yourself?  Are there ways you’ve learned to speak to yourself, honor yourself, or give yourself the sense of “enough”?

Our whole community can come together and learn from each other by sharing below!

WHAT SHOULD I EAT BEFORE I WORKOUT?

I can’t believe how many times over the past 2 decades I’ve been asked this question. I finally decided… it’s time to just answer the damn question!

Look, there’s going to be a lot of people out there with a special powder, shake, or special bar that will tell you they have the answer to what to eat before a workout.

First: What time are you talking about?

If you’re working out in the morning…. you’ve likely been fasting since the night before, so naturally your blood sugar is down. If you go out on an empty stomach it can cause BS to decrease even further, creating a situation where you’ll feel dizzy and nauseous.

This is the worst. It usually happens to folks who are newer to exercise and also are usually dealing unstable BS to start with, so by not eating you’re creating a big mess, you’ll feel like crap, and whatever workout you were trying to do goes out the door because you feel like you want to go hug the porcelain god. ugh.

But then there’s the other extreme where a new exerciser gets nervous about NOT eating, so they eat a Denny’s style breakfast before heading out for a workout session, and can’t figure out why they can’t stop burping and feeling like they’re gonna puke.

So now we know nothing is probably not good, and too much won’t work either, so the next question is:

THEN WHAT SHOULD I EAT?

And this is where it gets interesting. This is where all the expert advice out there (in my humble opinion) is totally bogus. This is a question that is best answered by going within.

Yes, that’s right…. discover for yourself the best food to eat! It’s like an experiment.

Let me give you an example.

Sally Sue figured out before her early morning workout if she ate a banana, it gave her just enough energy and blood sugar support and she had great energy for her workout.

If I eat a banana first thing in the morning before a workout, I will DEFINITELY puke it up. No questions asked.

It works for Sally Sue, it doesn’t work for me.

My mom works out with a personal trainer 3X a week at the God-awful hour of 5:30am. She’s been doing this for a decade. She’s 60. (I hear you… she amazes me, too!) She used to eat a 1/2 piece of Ezekiel cinnamon raisin sprouted toast with maybe a 1/2 Tablespoon of almond butter on it.

It worked for her.

On the mornings when I would visit and she somehow convinced me to wake up with her at that god-awful hour, I ate the same thing, and it worked for me.

Now days I think she does a small protein shake with almond milk.

The point I really want to convey here is what works for you might not work for someone else. You get the privilege of experimenting to figure out what will work best. Some folks have a hard time with food in their stomach, so they go for coconut water, a small protein shake, or a green juice. Some people prefer fruit, while others prefer a handful of almonds.

Your job is this:

Take into account what time you’re working out. If you had a nice lunch around 1pm and now around 4ish, you might Eat or drink something. Even if it’s just a little something (especially for early morning workouts or late afternoon workouts when you haven’t eaten anything since lunch). You’ll feel more energetic during the workout and your body will benefit from the extra boost of energy after fasting all night.

Don’t eat too much. If you over do it, you’ll feel like crap. I see new exercisers eat huge meals throughout the day, then add huge snacks in so they have energy before a workout, then make sure to eat after a workout…and wonder why they end up gaining weight even though they’re exercising.

What you eat is less important. Find something that makes you feel good and doesn’t cause an upset tummy.

Here are a few ideas, you can test out.

  • banana
  • any piece of fruit
  • Ezekiel toast with almond butter
  • handful of almonds
  • handful of nuts and dried fruit (trail mix)
  • yogurt
  • smoothie
  • apple with almond butter
  • hard boiled egg with hummus
  • coconut water

What have you tried in the past? What works best for you? Share below!